Teen Stress

Teens are reporting greater levels of stress in their daily lives. Stress is a response to challenging life circumstances, and a significant stressor in teenage life is their social lives. A major task of the developmental period that occurs during the teenage years is finding a peer group and forming new identities away from their families of origin. Teens want to feel like they belong. Cultivating new friendships, maintaining older friendships, and the general task of building close relationships may be significant sources of stress for many teens. Social media apps add to that stress. 

Teens with learning differences may have additional stressors to manage when considering academics. Students with learning differences may struggle with decreased self-esteem, increased anxiety, and increased sadness or irritability (in addition to other challenges) when they see themselves fall behind their peers in school. This can be further exacerbated by being separated from their peers in order to attend specialized classes or instructional periods for students with learning differences. At Forman, however, no one gets pulled out of class for extra help or is singled out for learning differently from other students. Instead, support is built in. 

Some other stressors teens face are getting into college and figuring out a future career. At Forman, students collaborate closely with the College Counseling Department, take post-secondary planning courses, and, ultimately, determine what their next chapter looks like with a support system in place. The support offered here ensures every student earns the opportunity to attend a four-year college or university and feels confident in their ability to succeed. 

Stress vs. Anxiety

Stress is the body’s response to the daily demands we have to manage. Anxiety is a more extreme form of worry. It is nervousness and apprehension that a person struggles to turn off. 

Time is an important element of anxiety. People may be anxious about something they said or did wrong in the past. Often, anxiety involves worry about the future. It is not necessarily focused on the present. 

For that reason, dealing with anxiety and stress requires us to deal with the present, with what’s right in front of us. 

Defining the Breaking Point

It is normal for teens to stress over things in their lives, such as a big test coming up or a college application deadline. However, if the anxiety is causing an impairment in functioning, such as being unable to sleep or eat, it may be time to seek the assistance of a psychologist.

Building Resilience 

There is no cure for stress, but building resilience can help teens learn to overcome stressful situations. Here are some ways teens can learn to manage stress. 

1. Acceptance
   We all experience stressors throughout our lives. There will be stressors in college, relationships, marriages, jobs, etc. That is why we need to work toward becoming resilient human beings. Recognizing this helps one accept and better adapt to situations. 

2. Perspective
   Have you ever used the phrase “in the grand scheme of things?” Those six words can help a teen put a stressful situation in context, minimizing feelings of upset and anxiety. 
   As a parent, you can try to use this phrase to help kids put things in perspective. For example, “In the grand scheme of things, how big a deal is it to lose a game?” Students will generally recognize that it’s not a catastrophe. So while you can acknowledge that it is stressful, you can remind them that it’s not the end of the world. Once you’ve established that, the question can turn to, “Now, what do you want to do about it?” You can start them on the path to problem-solving.

3. Self-care
   As a parent, you can teach your kids about self-care. This includes engaging in activities that can help them de-stress in healthy ways. Some examples are getting enough sleep, meditation, and exercise.

4. Self-advocacy
   When it comes to your child’s stress, you may not be in it together. If your child is experiencing emotional escalation with lots of thoughts or worries, as a parent, your job is to help them regulate their emotions in a more adaptive, beneficial manner, rather than to join in the frenzy. This may include using some of the techniques above, but should also include encouragement and solution-focused advocacy. 
   It is important to show your support and help your child to determine various options for solutions. In discussion with you, your child will be able to determine the best possible solution and path forward. Statements that are encouraging and confidence-building are key. 

5. Ongoing Support
   When stress and anxiety begin to get in the way of your teenager’s ability to function, that’s when it’s time to call in reinforcements. Your child’s pediatrician is a good person to start with, as they may be able to make an appropriate counseling referral. However, it’s important to consider the fit between your teen and a prospective provider. Having a list of providers to consider is recommended.
   

Today’s teens experience increasing levels of stress from a combination of factors. These can include academic pressure, digital technology, and social media, as well as political and environmental uncertainty^¹. The COVID-19 pandemic also led to rising rates of anxiety and had an overall negative impact on students’ mental health, with long-term effects that are still being studied. 

The good news is that the effects of stressors can be mitigated. Research suggests that supporting adolescents in developing resilience, feeling empowered, and creating a sense of community can all lessen the impact of potential stressors. Protective factors for teen mental health include engagement in extracurricular activities, such as organized sports or time spent outdoors, which can foster resilience and lessen anxiety and depressive symptoms. Other protective factors include healthy communication between adolescents and caregivers, and normalizing discussions about mental health, all of which are central components to our approach at Forman. We offer holistic support throughout students’ daily lives, with a significant emphasis on emotional, physical, and mental well-being.  We provide resources, such as counselors and psychologists, for all students who require support in managing their stress.

¹ Anderson, T. L., Valiauga, R., Tallo, C., Hong, C. B., Manoranjithan, S., Domingo, C., ... & Goldhaber, K. (2025). Contributing factors to the rise in adolescent anxiety and associated mental health disorders: a narrative review of current literature. Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing, 38(1), e70009.

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